Text: Proverbs 22:1-6
1 A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, Loving favor rather than silver and gold. 2 The rich and the poor have this in common, The Lord is the maker of them all. 3 A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, But the simple pass on and are punished. 4 By humility and the fear of the Lord Are riches and honor and life. 5Thorns and snares are in the way of the perverse; He who guards his soul will be far from them. 6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.
“And if it seems evil to you to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15
Intro: Defining a good name is given to us here in the first 6 verses and it is intended for instruction for the young. This doesn’t mean the ones who aren’t young cannot get something out of this Proverb. A good name is better than great riches; the Old Testament regards a good reputation as one of the most valuable assets of a person. One who is truly a following His Way recognizes everybody as his fellow man. The wise father keeps clear of danger and is aware of the various paths which one may choose in life. There is the prudent or cautious path but don’t trip onto the thoughtless path that leads to destruction. Like the stones that are all over a graveled road so must humility be on the path of a father with a good name, a man of God! This all leads up to the necessity of training the child the way God intended!
Frank Sinatra sang “My Way” and as much as I might admit the memories I have of the song, and how much I might like it, theologically it is wrong: It doesn’t work if you do things your way. There is only one way that is the right way, and that is God’s way. That way is specified in great detail in Proverbs.
Application: The right way isn’t the easy way!
Staples office supplies came out with a slogan a while ago that simply built its business around the idea of how easy it can be to do business with Staples. (That was easy) I would like to convince you that when you do business God’s way it is easy, and after you wake up from the dream you will find it is not! it can sometimes be the most difficult thing you do; however, the rewards are out of this world. It takes work to be a Godly father to raise children under the instruction of the Lord. Fathers who trust in Jesus Christ have a good name, they our good leaders and give good counsel.
Fathers who trust in Jesus Christ have:
1. A Good Name: “A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches”
A good reputation is better than silver or gold so if you’re spending more time with your silver and gold it is easy to see the kind of name you have.
“All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.” 2 Timothy 3:16-17 (NKJV)
A father’s first responsibility is to acquaint his children with Scripture. The means and methods that fathers may use to teach God's truth will vary. As the father is faithful in role modeling, what children learn about God will put them in good standing throughout their earthly lives, no matter what they do or where they go.
The good name comes with discipline for the father and son. The Christian father is really an instrument in God's hand. The whole process of instruction and discipline must be that which God commands and administers. The human father should never present himself as the ultimate authority to determine truth and duty. It is only by making God the teacher and ruler on whose authority everything is done that the goals of education can best be accomplished.
Martin Luther said, “Keep an apple beside the rod to give the child when he does well.” Discipline must be exercised with watchful care and constant training with much prayer. Chastening, discipline, and counsel by the Word of God giving both reproof and encouragement, is at the core of admonition. The instruction proceeds from the Lord and is learned in the school of Christian experience, and is administered by the parents - primarily the father, but also, under his direction, the mother. Christian discipline is needed to enable children to grow up with reverence for God, respect for parental authority, knowledge of Christian standards, and habits of self-control. When you do it His way you will reap the reward of a good name.
Fathers who trust in Jesus Christ are:
2. A Good Leader: “But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.” Joshua 24:15
Why do you thing the scriptures speak of the man as the head of the household, it was not intended to tick off the woman, the real problem there is the man or father who isn’t doing their job, their not being the father that the scripture refer too!
The Lord made all of us, and we all have the choice to do right! Israelite history reveals that the father was to be diligent in instructing his children in the ways and words of the Lord for their own spiritual development and well-being. The father who was obedient to the commands of Scripture did just that. “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” To “train” indicates the first instruction that a father and mother give to a child, in his early education. The training is designed to make clear to children the manner of life they are intended for. To commence a child's early education in this way is of great importance.
“And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4 (NKJV)
This is a summary of instructions to the father who wants to lead, stated in both a negative and positive way. The negative part of this verse indicates that a father is not to substitute negativity in his children with unreasonable exercise of authority. This will only serve to nurture evil in the heart. You don’t tell a three year old their stupid, or dumb…
“Do not provoke your children to wrath” The word “provoke” means to irritate, rub the wrong way, or inflame. This is done by a wrong spirit.
Such aggravation will produce adverse reactions, deadening children’s affection, reducing their desire for holiness, and making them feel that they cannot possibly please their parents. Have you ever seen a parent belittle their child? Come on have you ever seen Jesus belittle His disciples? A wise parent seeks to make obedience desirable and attainable by love and gentleness.
The positive part is expressed in a comprehensive direction - educate them, bring them up, develop their conduct in all of life by the instruction and admonition of the Lord. This is the whole process of educating and discipline. The word “admonition” carries the idea of reminding the child of faults (constructively) and duties (responsibilities).
A good leader imitates Christ, it’s that simple! “But as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”
Fathers who trust in Jesus Christ have:
3. A Good Counsel:
The wise will heed these sayings as they trust in the Lord. Good counsel comes from the Lord. The greatest commandment in Scripture is this: Deuteronomy 6:1-7 (NKJV)
"Now this is the commandment, and these are the statutes and judgments which the LORD your God has commanded to teach you, that you may observe them in the land which you are crossing over to possess, 2 that you may fear the LORD your God, to keep all His statutes and His commandments which I command you, you and your son and your grandson, all the days of your life, and that your days may be prolonged. 3 Therefore hear, O Israel, and be careful to observe it, that it may be well with you, and that you may multiply greatly as the LORD God of your fathers has promised you--'a land flowing with milk and honey.'
4 "Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one! 5 You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. 6 "And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.
Fathers are you doing it His Way? Fathers who trust in Jesus Christ have a good name, they are good leaders and give good counsel. The right way isn’t the easy way! It is only with patience, purpose, prayer and God’s peace that you can accomplish this!
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